Modern Day Love Story

In today's world where marriages last but a relative minute and inter-racial marriages have the stereotype of lasting even less, it is refreshing to see a modern day love story. David Bowie and Iman's 20 year marriage ended this week with the death of Mr. Bowie.

Both Iman and David had their own businesses. She was an international model and he was a rock star. Yet, they found time to fall in love, be in love, stay in love for 20 years. It can be done. Listening to Iman celebrate her marriage, we can see it can also be well worth it.

One of the last posts Iman wrote about celebrating David Bowie's 69th birthday was "Sometimes you will never know the true value of a moment until it becomes a memory."

The next day came the news the world was not expecting, with another beautiful post from Iman, "The struggle is real, but so is God."

May those of you who are married begin to look at your marriage in the same way - one that is truly valued in this current memory.

Marriage - what do we really want?

I was reading a story for the Washington Post recently on marriage; What men (and women) want in a marriage, today vs. yesterday. It was a good read, but it got me thinking ....

1977 - 1/2 of women and just under 1/2 of men polled said that they would like to have a marriage where the husband and wife both have jobs, both do housework, and both take care of the children.

2011 - 3/4 of women and about 2/3 of men polled said that they would like to have a marriage where the husband provides for the family and the wife takes care of the house and children.

Interesting, isn't it? How many women do you meet that complain their husband or significant other do not help around the house. Come to find out, that although many women complain abundantly about the issue ... 3/4 of the women say they want that type of marriage.

The article noted that the results of the poll where basically the same no matter the age or the income level of the household.

A question that I have, that the article didn't answer, is in regards to society. Does the overwhelming societal pressures inhibit women from expressing their true desires? In other words, if 3/4 of the women polled said they would prefer to be stay-at-home moms and the husbands would be out taking in the working environment - does society's view of stay-at-home moms sway women from admitting this desire?

What are your thoughts?